By Narelle Monteleone
Looking to change careers? Needing a change of lifestyle? Want to try something new but too scared to take the leap?
Taking the step from what feels familiar, even if it's not making you happy and moving into something new can be uncomfortable. Lets face it, it can be down right terrifying! Many of us tend to play it safe and stay stuck in situations, places, jobs, relationships that although may be making us stressed and unhappy, feel easier to be in than what lies ahead in the dreaded unknown. The uncertainty, which equates to a lack of trust on our part can be just too much to bear so we shrink back into the mundane or for some, a place of abuse, into what will inevitably become more uncomfortable than we are willing to put up with and only then will we make the change out of necessity. Even then, some won't, however the Universe will always shift you to where you are supposed to be eventually if YOU dont. It's important to note here that the way in which the Universe may take this action may not be the best route from your perspective so I highly recommend making those changes on your terms.
So why do we stay stuck even in the worst of situations?
Fear of being alone
Not wanting to hurt someone
Not feeling confident enough to succeed
Lack of self worth
Fear of the unknown
Not feeling strong enough
There are many reasons why people stay in situations that they know are not good for them, and the reasons listed above can prevent them moving forward.
Firstly, if this is you, I want you to know that you're never given anything that you can't handle and you are much stronger than you think you are. KNOW THIS TO BE TRUE!
Secondly, if you are concerned about the feelings of others, or how your decision may impact those around you, know that they are already being affected by the sheer fact that you are unhappy and not wanting to be there. (This is especially true for children).
Finally, everything you experience has a purpose and you are growing through every challenge. We are not supposed to stay the same our entire lives. We are constantly evolving so staying stuck in the one spot was never an option.
Know that I am not suggesting that at the first sign of a challenge, you leave your job, leave your partner, run away and start a new life - Not at all. It's normal to have ups and downs in life. I am talking to those of you who are stuck, unhappy, not feeling good enough to make the change and that are fearful of what the future holds by making this change so you stay because it seems easier to settle. You know that the life you are currently living is not for your highest good and every part of you wants out but you're just not sure where to begin.
HOW TO MAKE THE CHANGE?
You need to spend some time alone to get your head clear - Meditation will help with this. The more you meditate, the more you will receive answers to your questions. It will also relax and calm you which will enable you to make clearer decisions.
Make a plan of what your short term goal is and the steps you need to take to get you there. This isn't a lifelong goals list, just the basics to get you where you need to be to make the change and to ensure your needs will be met.
Call on your Guides and Angels and even loved ones in spirit to support you. You have so much support however you need to ask. Know that even if you don't feel you are being heard, you definitely are and asking for help is an important element. Be open to how the help will arrive. It may be entirely different to what you expected. Watch for signs as you move throughout your day. Maybe you had a question you needed answered then you saw a butterfly that you felt was a messenger or a number plate that gave you the answers, or finding feathers.
There are signs everywhere once you are more aware and open to receive. Your spiritual team love you unconditionally and want nothing more than for you to be living a life of happiness and doing what you came here to do in this lifetime.
Don't be afraid to ask for help from those you know you can trust. Be selective because you need support right now, not a guilt trip or a lecture. (People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones right?)
If you are struggling emotionally, ensure you are looking after yourself and speak with a Counsellor or Psychologist, see a Healer or whoever can best assist you with your needs. Self care should always be a priority and definitely when we are dealing with stressful situations.
Please know there is always help available and you are never alone (Lifeline 131114)
You can do it! If you can dream it, you can make it a reality and dont' listen to anyone who tells you otherwise. Our self worth plays such a big role in our ability to believe that we can have whatever we desire. You are deserving of all the happiness you wish for and the past should never dictate the future. Forgive, Release, move forward and really go for it. Try to look at what you have experienced as knowledge and wisdom to grow as a person and to help others do the same. You live through what you live through for a purpose. Nothing happens by chance.